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Pregnancy Part 1 of 3 - I Didn’t Think I Would Make It This Far

“I didn’t think I’d make it this far.” This thought has been a constant on the minds of many, at least at one time or another. It is a blatant cry of lost hope, but the courageous steps of something to look forward to. It’s all about finding that ‘one thing’ that makes you want to continue on. 

My wife and I have news that we are expecting our first child in October! We recently found out it will be a darling of a beautiful baby girl. This announcement is in direct proportion to the comment made above. This is the finest instance I can think of pertaining to living for something special. 

Through the beginning stages of discussion for becoming pregnant, the number one go-to point of interest had been the worry of passing down the gene – it wasn’t so much of if we could handle the Bipolar for my wife during the pregnancy, but did we want this child to possibly have Bipolar as well? My wife knows all too well the struggles she has been through and continues to have and did not want to put another life in that situation. 

The conclusion was that of a mutual respect of life and we would both be there for the child, if indeed the gene had been passed down. It was no longer a matter of “if” the child would carry the gene, it was “we will” make this happen in as positive light as possible. 

When it is all said and done, and you have found that one thing, your new mantra should change to reflect “I’m Glad I Made It This Far.” The addition to the original statement has changed to reflect a more positive tone, “I didn’t think I’d make it this far, but I’m glad you were there to help me when I needed it.” 

Read the rest of Greg’s posts for IBPF here.

Comments

Despite the stress of a new location, not knowing anyone, being away from my support system, carrying twins, going to college online, and caring for a two year old while my husband was gone at work 12-15 hours a day, pregnancy kept me stable somehow. The hardest part was the few following weeks where I had to try very, very hard to fight postpartum depression. I had a few breakdowns, a few hypomanic days, but I knew that I had kids to care for and I just HAD to do the stuff that needed done. I HAD to put myself back together (with the help of my husband) after a breakdown. I HAD to get out of bed, clean the apartment, breastfeed the babies, sort the laundry, do my homework; there was no other option.

Many people believe people with bipolar should not have children due to their struggle, and passing the gene on. I just know that I did not want to avoid living my life and having children because of my struggle. I have the skills and can teach them the same skills to cope with the disorder and even use it to their advantage. A bipolar mind is wonderful and creative. The'curse' is really a blessing in disguise.

Hi Greg, congratulations. I have bi-polar and have a 12 year old son. Made it this far with help from Scottish NHS, friends, school and growing awareness. Parenting is awesome. enjoy the ride.

I have 2 beautiful son's, the 2nd one was conceived when I was on a high and a bit tough at times but with the right love and support it is so worth it! Good luck and wish you all the best in your pregnancy :)

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