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11 Ways to Support Someone During Mania

Mania, whether it be a full-blown episode or a shorter period of hypomania, is at the very center of the bipolar disorder diagnosis. Both manic episodes and hypomania are characterized by increased amounts of self-esteem and grandiosity, racing thoughts, irritability, and goal-directed behaviors or activity. Given that mania or hypomania are shared experiences for all those living with bipolar disorder, we reached out to our Facebook audience and asked them for tips on how loved ones, friends, and others can help them during these manic times.

It’s important to remember that the following tips are not comprehensive and are not guaranteed to be what works best for you personally. Communication between friends/loved ones and those with manic symptoms is key. Before instituting some of the tips below (such as calling one’s doctor and taking away their phone and credit cards), make sure you have permission to do such when a manic or hypomanic episode occurs.

Which of these do you agree with? Which do you disagree with? Do you have anything else to add? Let us know in the comments below. 

1. Avoid patronizing or combative words

“Don't make presumptions and say off the cuff remarks like, ‘are you drunk!’” – Haze S.

“I mean, there are things to not do like don't tell me to calm down, don't tell me to relax.” – Joy P.

“Don't assume I'm manic just because I'm upbeat or exaggerated, I might just be in a great mood. Don't tell me to calm down or stop because it's not something I can physically control.” – Crystal G.














2. Don’t take things personally

“Recognize that my distance has nothing to do with them or my love of them, and everything to do with my relatively short-term inability to empathize and connect.” – Rachel S.

“Give me my space and don't take anything I do or say personally. I feel awful for being irritable, but can't help it at the moment.” – Pamela H.

“Just don't take me seriously. This will help with forgiveness later.” – Emily B.

“Try not to get offended, as I get a wobble gob and have no filter! I often say things I later regret or hurt people's feelings by telling them the truth.” – Claire T.

“Don't take my irritability personally, come chill with me in a calm, safe environment.” – Deb E.














3. Give them space

“I say things and do things beyond my control. Just stay away.” – Judith A.

“Just allowing me to breathe, finding my calm, and allowing my wibbly wobbly moods to simmer/work its way out means a lot (unless you hear me saying some really scary stuff — if you do, just sit me down or try to distract me.)” – Camille J.

“They can just leave me alone, preferably. Not just with mania but the depressive episodes, too. I'd rather just be left alone.” – Alisha F.

“Leave me well alone. It's better for everyone, as I can become angry and agitated with every word of kindness given. I know they love me, but it's not what I want when I have an episode.” – Mandy I.














4. Keep them company

“The two times I have been extremely manic, psychosis and all, my husband has been with me and/or my family. I cannot be left alone because I don't know what I would even do, I am very unpredictable.” – Cynthia B.

“The best advice I can give to anyone who's loved one is going through mania is to watch their behavior, spend more time with them, try to let them get out all their hyped-up feelings and listen to them, don't make faces that they’re crazy or anything.” – Karen R.

“Do things with me that are fun, keep me busy, while keeping me safe. Don't make me feel stupid or embarrassed for rambling on or not making sense.” – Kari R.














5. Protect them from harm — especially financial harm

“That the best way to help me is to lovingly express concern over my manic behavior, especially when it is detrimental to my health or lifestyle (like when I want to quit my job and start a new business ... Every other day with some new grand idea or invention. Or when I compulsively spend money. Or self-medicate with alcohol or working out.)” – Rachel S.

“The best thing someone can do for me is take my credit cards. Next, I need someone to talk to or I will start to obsess about things like FB.” – Kt J.

“Take away my credit cards and block me from buying ANYTHING on credit.” – Kevin B.












6. Take away phones or passwords (if agreed upon)

“When I was manic, I started giving away cash to strangers and friends so def take my money away from me. Be kind. Kindness helped me. I also posted a lot of random stuff on Facebook and a friend took away my passwords and changed them for me.” – Stephanie K.

“Take my phone away from me. I go in to a shopping frenzy on my phone when I’m manic.” – Fran F.


















7. Encourage their behaviors (within reason)

“If I am obsessing about something that isn’t particularly harmful, let me work through it and get it out of my system — there may occasionally be benefits of it.” – Camilla B.

“My husband tries very hard to balance letting me see my bright plans through (otherwise, I'd get frustrated because I think they're amazing, foolproof plans) and trying to talk me out of things that really aren't amazing, foolproof plans because he knows what I'll be like when my plans fail. I'm so lucky to have him; he handles me better than I handle me.” – Aimee F.










8. Give their doctor or psychiatrist a call (if necessary)

“Ring my psychiatrist.” – Xena S.

“Call my psychiatrist; make me an appointment; drive me to the appointment. I shouldn't drive when I'm that up.” – Becky O.

“Remind them to slow down and maybe call [their] doctor.” – Marc D.


















9. Remind them about their medication

“When I am struggling, my friends and family ask if I have eaten and when, they also ask if I have taken my meds and literally bring them to me if I haven't.” – Stephanie B.

“It's VERY important for me to take my medication so I can start slowing down. If I wasn't medicated, I would not be able to survive.” – Cynthia B.

“My wife gives me space, she asks if I've taken my meds and doesn't make me feel guilty for not sleeping next to her because she knows it's not a choice.” – Candra C.














10. Prepare for a depressive episode

“Enjoy the fact that I'm super productive, but be aware that it comes crashing down and prepare to catch me as I fall.” – Crystal G. 

“Be patient, prepare for the inevitable crash, help more at home, love me unconditionally ...” – Brandi B.








11. Provide hugs, love and general support

“Respect my disease, respect that I'm trying to control myself the best I can, love me for who I am without trying to change things about me that will never change.” – Megan S.

“Be understanding when I talk too fast and say things that sound off the wall. Know that my brain is running so fast I don't have time to really understand what I am saying.” – Joy P.

“Unconditional love is what you can do to help me the most.” – Rachel S.


Encourage me to come out of my bedroom but try to understand I can't at that moment. Run to me not away from me.

My daughter is currently in hospital and is slowly being told she could be in for several months which during a lengthy manic and delusional episode feels like the worst thing in that could happen to her. She has sooo many plans for the summer and projects she wants to start. She continues to refuse long term antipsychotics but having been through several such episodes where she ruins all her plans, loses friends and has twice ended up in prison I feel change has got to happen.

Are antipsychotics the answer? Is it helpful to say I want her to try antipsychotics, when she gets so angry with me? I don't know if i'm making things worse for her or supporting her.

What should I do when she refuses to accept support and treatment. Mania is like a train crash. Is there a good way forward?


In my opinion medications are not the biggest part of the answer because success varies prim person to person & eventually they need to be adjust & they don’t cure anything hing & often there is a long process of trial & error with many meds & more negative side effects. Meds should be like crutches that help you for a time but you need much more than meds if your ever going to have real success. I should write a book but many have already been written. I’ll make one suggestion which is to look into & practice mindfulness & mindful meditation & there are plenty of peer videos online. There are books or audiobooks & I recommend “Peace is Every Step”, “Peace is Every Breath” & “Body & Mind Are One” all by the same author. They are available on iTunes & audible where you can get a free book if you try out their service which is how I started off with “Body & Mind Are One”. Also look up Dan Harris because he has written some books & made an app to help new folks.

Do you have bi polar disorder?

I can't say I understand completely but I can feel your pain!
I'm 25 year old and have borderline personality disorderMy brother 22 is bipolar, OCD, manic depression and is a drug addict. My mother is schizophrenia. We have all seen thousands of doctors and have done almost everything to help us! We try to help each other and stay all on track and tacking our supplements and meds
But we trigger each other to much! I'm in the process of trying my best to move out and hope that will allow us all space to grow since we live in a one bedroom apartment.
I think the root to us always relapsing and being triggered is each other and not having space. Being told sorry or I love or I'm here for you only help when you are ready to hear it
I think anyone dealing with this needs space
A safe space of course but a space free of judgement and full of trust!
I've been hospitalized and it doesn't feel Ike help because they don't trust you but how you are supppise to trust them when everyone in your hasn't been there. But a man in a lab coat will

First understand your daughter is a person so nothing is going to change unless two things happens she wants things to change and she is ready to admit she has bipolar this is a big step for most people I myself found out I had bipolar after I got pregnant I was 25 apparently I have always had it but was ever diagnosed til then after I was diagnose me and my mom spent a year getting second opinions then it took 2 years for me to come to terms with it til I decide to get straight with medicines diets exercise routine schedule heads up if medicines stop working you will know and if meds don’t do their part even if she has a strong will power to do hers it won’t happen. Also till your daughter is ready to tell people keep it between immediate family only most people don’t understand what it means to be bipolar and are very judgemental. I am thirty four we just find the right doctor and meds a year and half ago and I just started feeling confident enough to diet and look for a job exercise maintain a schedule. Also you may want to keep an eye on how she acts on each drug and write it down find doctor that cares for patients enough to call u back if u have an emergency situation she will need a therapist she feels comfortable with. But it ultimately comes down to does she want live bad enough she willing to live with the lifelong struggles of being bipolar and she will never be cured of this illness squash that fairy tale right now but through time and experience it becomes easier to recognize triggers and how to stay from them. She needs to understand there is medicine that will help her not to give up and look online through all bipolar treatments fda approve and not find out the risks and pros what it’s primary use. Also make her understand her life nor dreams is over because she has this illness support group will help. She does need a stress free environment but do make her do things keep room clean and laundry dishes u know low key stuff:

I am a 27 year old female who has bipolar I disorder. I also have borderline personality disorder, and am currently going to counseling for PTSD. When I was in college and even before then I've had manic and depressive episodes for a long time. But in my 20s after I graduated college and landed a job that was stressful long long hours, and also stress from relationships. my symptoms got so intense I didn't understand what was happening. My feelings distort my thoughts and perception of the world during these episodes which is something I'm still working on. My point is my symptoms got so bad after months or about a year of just counseling. I felt I wanted to try and see if medication would help me. The physicians assistant I saw didn't believe I had bipolar disorder. So he put me on antidepressants. That spun me into the worst manic state I've ever been in. And it landed me in the hospital. My point is I went on a journey of trying to find the best combination of medication for my diagnosis and my symptoms. Now I know that some people think the medication is bad. Even my mom included she's undiagnosed bipolar but refuses to get counseling or medication and honestly it made it more painful the ones around her. But she manages it without medication by working alot and the mood swings just come and go. But even so, when people say medication as bad or look at as a bad thing for me it's not. I know how I would be or how much I was struggling with my symptoms. And, yes I feel the quality of my life is worth taking medication every day probably for the rest of my life. I don't see it as a bad thing because it gives me a chance at feeling more normal and less out of control. Honestly what I say is if you've never had the intense episodes of emotions it's hard for some one who has experienced that to understand the importance of what medication can do.

Of course, keep in my medicine is not a cure all. It is recommended along with therapy of course to be one of the main treatments of bipolar disorder because it is a chemical imbalance going on in your brain. Also, I know sometimes in depressive episodes there is the tendency to become suicidal and the medication decreases that significantly which poses me to be less of a threat to my well being.

Although, medicine is a major component it is not a one cure all. Medicine is expected to work hand in hand with counseling/therapy, coping skills and skill building learning how to manage your symptoms and emotions, doing things you love. For me art has always been my safe haven, yoga, meditation all help me feel grounded. It's important for each person to find what works for themselves.

But, I do want to keep in mind. Medication is a choice and it is the persons choice being diagnosed with bipolar disorder. For example, my mom she refused to get help with counseling/medication and she's not ready to address this, and maybe she never will;I have accepted that also. Because in the end this is her choice on what she wants to put in her body. As much as She I feel medicine would be great help for her because it helped me and I want her to feel better. In the end it's her choice and every person is different and handles it in their own way, and that's okay.

I hope my experience helps.

God bless you and your family! Oh and spirituality and higher power alot it changed my life and helped me feel at peace again. Along with social support and extracurricular activities in groups with people that have me social support that really helped.

Please take what helps you, and leave what doesn't.

I Love You All!

God bless, take care on this journey we call life.

I’m on antipsychotics long term and currently in a manic state. I’m aware of it and have increased my med to keep the ceiling on the mania. I still have disturbing, racing thoughts but am able to control them better with the med. and being open with others about my mania which I was in denial before and kept hidden.

Ive been diagnosed with bipolar but i dont think i have it. i dont go from a super high to a super high. i am always down. How do i get my doctor to reevaluate me?

Hi Trish, bipolar disorder varies a lot from person to person, and there are also different types of bipolar. So it's possible that you could have bipolar disorder even if your symptoms are different from someone else's. 

You should tell your doctor that you're not sure if you have bipolar disorder and why. You can also use this questionnaire to help:

Initially when I was diagnosed bi polar I was extremely depressed and feeling the lowest of lows, I don't believe I was getting the manic highs others spoke about, but now I no longer have the low depressed side of Bi polar instead 8 have many manic days. You just really never know.

Initially when I was diagnosed bi polar I was extremely depressed and feeling the lowest of lows, I don't believe I was getting the manic highs others spoke about, but now I no longer have the low depressed side of Bi polar instead 8 have many manic days. You just really never know.

There's different types of bipolar. I myself have bipolar 2 disorder, which are not the highest highs or lowest lows but they happen more often as in a daily struggle of depression, anxiety or mania. Please educate yourself so you can better manage. Keep in mind, meds are only going to help somewhat if you can get past side effects, the other half is how we chose to manage our symptoms. Best of luck to you.

I love all the tips n will use them on my patients

What does someone do when they have no insurance, are undoubtedly bipolar, can't work, and the mental health clinic and resources are not adequately treating them??? It isnso frustrating watching my best friend go without treatment and get worse and worse. It seems impossible to get him under the care of a competent psychiatrist. The clinics are so backed up and seems like they just want to get mentally ill people in and out and don't have time to adequately assess and treat someone. Too many helpless mentally ill people with no where to turn.

It is very hard! Find a NAMO support group. It is free and a great resource or where help csn be found. Many people with similar experiences

NAMI is the national alliance on mental illness. They offer free classes for peers, families and loved ones, support groups etc. go to their website and find your local NAMI to get involved.

Help with bi-pilor anger issue

Thank you this is so true!

Read a lot about the importance of surrounding the person with bi-polar with the best team of professionals.. easier said then done. My son is off medication as it made him depressed, sluggish and had suicidal thoughts, doctors not really concerned,
it has been 12 months and he's going well but am dreading the onset of another mania..

Dtr is 26, she hasn;t been manic for 7 years. she has two children and is spending money, just quit her job...says she is happy livign in the moment everything is fine. keeps buying things...she will lose her home if she doesn't quit spending without income. Suggested she quit spending til she figures out her budget...says she is fine. after quitting job spent or charged a bunch of money on out of the Country trips because she got an email "with all these great deals". Not sure what to do. she thiks she is fine... she isn't

What do you do when the person is on a high and constantly attacks you verbally and mentally and rufuses to listen to anything you say and except any help. Then calls you controlling when you try and advise them not to spend money or get loans out?

This is a great question and I'd like the answer also. I've learned the hard way that trying to rationalize with them doesn't help.

That's a great question that I'll also would like an answer too hence my boyfriend does exactly that when he gets an episode

when my wife drained our bank accounts and asked me to take money out of my retirement account I told her it would take a few weeks to process, did the same with our modest investments, transferred our savings to a personal account only I have access to.

Offer to go with her and support as much as you can

I couldn't agree more. As the wife of a bipolar, I've learned I can enable them in any of these ways. It is not my job and I am not his mother. I cannot fix him.

Yes, it’s “our responsibility,” but there is such a thing as accountability. I am grateful when my daughter gives me the flag that I’m “ramping up.” Sometimes when you’re in it, you don’t see it. I was glad I had support when I needed 911 to be called and didn’t have to rely on myself to pick up a phone and call. That couldn’t have been “my job.” There is a difference between bipolar 1 manic episodes and bipolar 2 hypomania, and I wish the catch-all bipolar would stop being bandied about.

Carl, at least you have a spouse who knows you. I have a 26 yr old daughter who IS in Manic phase right now. spending money like there is no tomorrow, she is usually GREAT with her money. She is buying trips all over the world, she doesn't have a passport. She quit her job because someone asked her if she was okay, thought she was on drugs. Says she is just happy and living in the moment. She missed two airline flights last week...but no big deal, just used more points...didnt matter because it "didnt cost money mom"...yeah just thousands of her points. She has two children owns a tiny single wide which she has fixed up but paying for these trips...that she received an email about"they sound fun",she may lose her home now if she doesn't pay her bills. I suggested she may want to watch her pennies a bit now that she isnt employed. her response was she has 10, 000 pennies...($1000) in the bank...and everything is fine. NOT! Very concerned she has two children to take care of.

But as someone who has bipolar/mania and suffers for years.....I can't help but read a lot of these and shake my head. Let me point out a few things I've learned over the years.

It is not so,domes job to change your password or take away your credit cards, if you can't manage a system of dealing with this when you're NOT manic then you need Meds (they work wonders when you find the right one).

Just because I'm in a good mood don't assume I'm manic? Another no....those that don't have it usually can't tell the difference. Learn that the question isn't mean to hurt you but they literally need to know what state of mind you're in.

Be prepared to catch me when I come down....another usually no, it's not up to other people to catch you every time you have a manic episode. For those of us that are on Meds and still have manic can tell when you're having one. Learn the techniques to identify because it's your responsibility to take care of you and no one else. Learn about your disease and take steps to manage, predict and prevent certain awkward/hurtful encounters.

I could go on more....but I just think it's important for people to understand that this page was written either by a manic person in the middle of an episode or someone that relies way too heavily on others and that's no healthy...nor does it last. Friends don't want to constantly drive home and nurse the same drunk person in their group over and some point they will gravitate toward other friends.

Again, not trying to be hurtful to the people above....but I've lived with this for over 20 years and there are things you mature and learn when it comes to mania and my spouse and how to deal and manage.

I couldn't agree more with your reply!!

Yes I was thinking the same. I have no family but I have a busy job. I have to control it with meds and take responsibility of me and younger siblings. I go through awful times but I get there :). I don't need ppl to know, they always judge. I learnt this when my parents died and I was young no one gets it or cares so I hide everything

Thanks for your input. My daughter is 9 months from diagnosis, (after a long struggle to get a solid diagnosis) and we are both learning that it is best if I support her but don't try to cure her or control her disease. I do not manage anything for her, and she is responsible for herself and her decisions and their consequences. She is learning to identify her symptoms and her slides, and if she asks for help, I remind her of things she is "thinking too fast to remember." Today, she asked for help, and said she knew she was headed toward mania, and asked me to remind her of some pre-agreed steps she can take to help herself de-escalate.(She established the plan that I can follow to help her, and what I can and can't do.) She is working hard with a treatment team to become healthier. It helps us both to work out our responsibilities ahead of time, when things are even. She made an appointment with her therapist tomorrow and doctor the next day, and took the steps she had asked me to remind her to take. I'm glad she can take control of her own well-being!

Hi Carl, I have a brother who has bi polar disorder. He has not been taking his meds recently and is starting to display signs that he is going to slip into another manic episode. We have been working hard to avoid this and help him get his life back on track (he used to suffer from addiction), but he is talking about dropping out of college along with other life altering decisions. He previously made a promise to me that he would take his meds daily and I reiterated this to him telling him that a promise is a promise. He agreed in a moment of clarity and so I can only pray that he takes this to heart and sticks to his word. Any advise that you can give on how to try and help him regain some of his logical thought process during the lag time it is going to take for the meds to begin addressing this again? I am extremely concerned that the decisions he might commit to during this time will adversely affect the rest of his life. I am also concerned that he will have to be hospitalized briefly for a second time. Any insight you can offer would be immensely appreciated. Thank you.

I think the same too. Bipolar since m'y teenage tests ans nos 30 and i know i have to ne responsible for myself, my choices and my mental health. Ive been an addictions on alcohol and cocaine for four years and didnt understand that i could decide to stop and help myself. I Found a great medication combination ans the only thing i have to work on now is to keep taking Them.

Please do not take this as some personal attack at all because it absolutely is not. Your opinions and feelings about the importance of independence in coping with one's own manic or depressive episodes is valid, constructive, and undoubtably shared by many. But the fact is that this article is entitled "11 Ways To Support Someone During Mania" and is specifically written to give advice and tips on how one can give support and help to someone during a manic episode with input from actual patients. Obviously tools, techniques, treatments, and plans that are developed and executed by the individual independently are absolutely necessary but not only professional help but social support is just as indescribably important as well. The tips are not presented as commandments, requirements, or cure-all-for-alls or that any suggestion be done without the express consent of either party. The entire point of the article is to give real world advise to people who wish to support a manic friend or help a manic friend explain how better to help support them. The title is so specific that it seems either purposefully obtuse or defensive for one to pretend that the article is advocating total and complete social support as treatment and ignoring all professional, medication, and independent techniques as part of a comprehensive treatment. Not all people feel burdened by their manic friends and I highly doubt those that do are looking up and reading "11 Ways To Support Someone During Mania." A much more independent approach with much less social support may be perfect for you and your husband, and many others but many other people require different types and levels of care. Many manics thrive best with more intensive or varied levels of social support (even those living, dealing, and learning with this for 20+ years) and many many people are happy and eager to help support them. This article was written for them.

Thank you so much for your comment! I am not bipolar myself but found out the hard way 4 weeks ago that my best friend is. Since then, I have been supporting her up to the point where I had to go for psychological help myself as I got depressed and my anxiety disorder worsened heavily (it has been there before but I have been stable for 7 years upfront the crisis of my friend). I am still there for her and show her that I am her friend, that I am not taking personal her verbal outbreaks. Still, since she refuses to acknowledge her mania nor is taking medication or advice, I have to take care of myself first before I can help others. So there is not infinite time and help, I can offer. I think it is very important to understand that, too as in my opinion, if relatives and friends sacrifice their own jobs, health and well-being, this is not helpful in the long-term.

So, this is way after the original post, however, this is for anyone who reads it later. If you have a friend who is manic, and you are feeling worn down, please take a break. Get support for yourself, talk to a friend or therapist. You can’t stop someone from being manic or force them to see it. In fact, the nature of mania is such that they often CAN’T see it. Take a step back, pace yourself, be there for them by checking in from time to time. Then you can help them when they are down and need your help. Most people are more willing to accept and be able to see that they need help, when they are in depression or in between episodes. Good luck, and even if you need to step away for now, check back in on them later. Take good care of yourself. Thank you for caring for your friend AND for yourself. (Source: I have bipolar I and great friends)

Is there a website or blog or whatever that you would recommend

I am so glad that SOMEONE finally said this Carl.
Because I do not have bipolar but I am significant other of someone with bipolar, I didn't feel comfortable saying so.

I feel so often and am told by my partner that it is my job to take care of her during her depression and Mania. "You know that how well I do is affected by our relationship."
This terrifies me of saying the wrong thing or making her upset because I don't want her to have an episode or go to work in a badd mood in lose her job.

And she also refuses to take any medications because she doesn't like the way it makes her feel. But she does not realize that she is dangerously IMAC8 it from not eating and spiraling for a dangerously long time.
Whenever I gently suggest medications she yells and screams in says that I'm only thinking of myself and not her. But again she feels that I should know what to do and what not to do to keep her safe.
In short it is her decision of whether or not to take her medications. And as I said she will not take medications. But it is my job to minimize the consequences and help her deal with the consequences.

My wife and I met when we were just kids we both had terrible childhoods and relied on each other we finally ran away and accomplished a 25 years in and she thinks I'm the enemy.what can I do? This woman is my heart my best friend and I don't know how to live without her is there a cure does the meds work how do I get her help.

Hi Tony, thank you for contacting us. I’m sorry to hear about what you are going though. Making the decision to get help is difficult for many people and it may take some time. You are doing the right thing by learning more about how to help her. This article has advice on how to approach the topic and suggestions for what to say:

We also have a recorded lecture that goes into this topic in greater detail:

Another option to try is attending a support group for caregivers. It’s comforting to talk with others who are in a similar situation and you can learn a lot by asking them questions and seeing what has or hasn’t worked for them. Let me know if you would like help finding a support group in your area.


I hope this information is helpful to you, please contact if you have any other questions.

Thank goodness for this site. I am trying to learn any and everything to support my daughter and recognize the signs while at the sane time, trying to manage how to deal with her mania when it happens. I did not realize you can become manic while still taking meds. Her behavior was off from the usual, now I know why

Good morning,
Thanks for your 11 comments, I have put many in use.
Despite taking medication, seeing doctors and not using drugs my son is on hypo-manic spiral 15 days high and 15 depressed for the last few months. He is on his 10th day manic and I am so tired. I know I have to get time out and look after myself to cope. Any help would be appreciated.

Recently a coworker of mine got extremely snippy with me at work, finding out he is bipolar and never said anything but pleasent things to each other, I was thrown off by his possessed look and lack of understanding how rude he was being to me, I let my boss know and he had asked him to leave knowing he wasn't well. Then he became extremely manic and started threatening me and messaging me all these extremely scary hateful things. We worked together so he knows where I am. Will his personal vendetta against me subside? Will he obsess over me? He thinks I got him fired.. and am scared for my safety and well being. Kind of making my anxiety go crazy and always looking over my back. Will he realize that I'm not his enemy?!? When he comes down from this manic state will he come back to reality and figure the situation isn't as intense as he thinks it is. Any knowledge an altercation after a manic state??


We are sorry to hear you are going through such a tough time. Bullying, threats and harassment are never ok, whether in-person or online. We suggest you take steps to cut off communication with your coworker. Secondly, therapy and support groups can be very helpful. Please respond to if you would like help locating these in your area. In addition, there are online support groups for victims of online abuse. We do not have any specific to suggest but many can be found via a google search. Lastly, depending on the laws in your area, your coworker may be breaking the law. Please don't hesitate to contact law enforcement if you feel the line has been crossed. We hope this is helpful. Thank you for reaching out to IBPF.

Just because we're bipolar doesn't mean we don't deserve respect when we ask to be left alone, to reschedule, or say "no" to something. Planning anything can turn into an irritating, furious mess in no time if something small goes wrong. Just trust us on that one. We'll all have a better time. :-)

Hello! In need of major help! My friend from out of state was here for work. He lost his job the first week he was here. He is drinking out of control, blew through all money, asking for more money from ANYONE, he is all over the place. He starting pawning yesterday, ended up in the E.R with a broken finger and split head from falling down on a dance floor. He is sleeping on the beach and hustling people. I am desperate. I know nothing about this, all i know is he needs help. Please tell me how to help him!

Sorry, I forgot this part. He lost his phone, won't eat much, and the blisters on his feet are like nothing I have ever seen?? I ask him about them or a plan, and before I know it I am back home and have no idea what just happened?

Hi Holly, Thank you for contacting IBPF. We are sorry to hear about what you are going though with your friend. If you beleive your friend is in a crisis, please call this number which is a crisis line with listeners trained to help you: 1-800-273-TALK (8255), as we are not a crisis center. You can also reach the Crisis Text Line by texting START to 741-741. For a list of international crisis centers visit this page:

Making the decision to get help is difficult for many people and it may take some time. You are doing the right thing by learning more about how to help him. This article has advice on how to approach the topic and suggestions for what to say:

We also have a recorded lecture that goes into this topic in greater detail:

Another option to try is attending a support group for caregivers. It’s comforting to talk with others who are in a similar situation and you can learn a lot by asking them questions and seeing what has or hasn’t worked for them. Let us know if you would like help finding a support group in your area.


I hope this information is helpful to you, let us know if you have any other questions.


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